My Raging Libido

I’m totally digging these “no frills” sex dates that I’ve been doing.  An afternoon appointment to be pleased by a hot dude whose only reason in coming over is to do just that.  I actually got to know one of these guy’s a little during our brief recharge breaks, and he wasn’t a terrible guy.  That’s not to say that I’m falling in love, because I’m not.  I just feel like this guy might be selling himself a little short.

He’s very good looking and successful.  It made me wonder why he’s still single and not hubbied up by one of those skinny fair girls whose sole purpose for existing is to marry a guy like this.  (For the record:  when I met this guy, I totally pictured him with a pretty skinny girl and would have totally set him up with one of my friends if I didn’t want to bang him). 

Whatever.  I’m just happy to be having a regular sex partner once again, and thank god he showed up when he did, because it was slim pickings what with the idiotic celibacy break I took.  I can’t tell whether it’s because he’s fresh meat or whether he really can just hit me the right way, because I really can’t get enough, which I’m actually pretty happy about considering I was worried about my libido dying (pushing 30 and all). 

There’s a huge disconnect between men and women’s libidos as they get older.  Both men and women have a slowed libido as they get older, however, men’s testosterone production doesn’t stop, whereas women’s estrogen production does.   It is what it is, and when the marvels of science catch up, which in some sense it has with the onset of estrogen injections and the like, libidos will all level out and everyone will have the sex they want/need.

However, before we are all blessed with OTC hormones, my theory is that men’s libido fails with monogamy.  It goes back to my theory about how men are biologically inclined to perpetuate their genes.  That, in combination with The Coolidge Effect *, theoretically results in a man who is unable to be sexually satisfied…ever.

So what about all these men who claim they have healthy sex lives?  That they are satisfied with their “one” sex partner?  I remain skeptical and go back to my several pieces on “cheating” and wonder if they are getting their fix elsewhere.  Okay, I lied, I don’t just wonder, I’m about 75% sure they are.  And those that aren’t?  Well I won’t be the one to say it.   

I don’t think I’ll be losing my libido anytime soon and when I do (in ten years), I plan on being first in line for those estrogen pills that I’ll abuse like I do my Xannys now. 

I want to dedicate this to all my friends who have taken the courage to get out of marriages that weren’t working.  You took a risk and you were smart enough to realize you couldn’t fake it.  Good for you.

*I hate Wikipedia, but Google Scholar didn't have the article I wanted to reference and would you really read a peer-reviewed article anyway?