My mom wants to set me up with this guy and qualified it
with “he’s divorced”. So. I signed up.
When I was younger and I found the need to get married
because that is what everyone does, and I was scared to think about the fact
that the divorce rate was on the rise.
I think it was near 48% when was a teenager. I want to say it’s 51% today, but I have a feeling it’s
more. Now that I’m 30 (31 on
September 17th, don’t forget to send me presents!!), and I’ve
decided that getting married is not for me, I’ve given up the “terrifying
thought” that I’d have a marriage that would end up in divorce. Lucky for me, I am me.
Well, since I’m 30+, I know several married folks, and
consequently, several divorced ones.
And I still can’t, for the life of me, figure out why there is a stigma
associated to the divorced ones. Divorce
means you were man enough to figure out that you couldn’t be happy and
therefore took the guts to get out of the relationship and not be a pansy ass
who wants to make everyone but yourself happy.
Am I projecting?
No, but for most of you, I probably am.
I mean this furthers into my disdain for seeing “single?,
married?, and divorce?” on forms.
Like, why does “divorced” even count? Doesn’t a divorce just mean you are back to being single
again? And does it really
matter? I’ve been known to judge
people who get married and then I stopped because why should I? Some people can make the commitment that
I deem unnatural and others can redact it, which in turn other people judge.
God, I hate being so fucking clichéd, but what I’m saying is
that it’s all relative. But, in
any event, back to this guy that my parents want to set me up with. Without going into too much detail,
he’s probably the hottest guy I’ve ever had an opportunity to do. And the fact is, a guy who is divorced,
to me, tells me that he won’t do something just because it’s the right thing to
do. It tells me, that if shit hits
the fan, he’ll man up and say something is wrong and walk away if he has
to.
Writing it down actually makes it sound worse. Maybe it is, but if you aren’t happy,
my thought is do what makes you happy, and if it’s walking away, then go right
ahead.
He’s not local, so you won’t find out if we hit it off, but
I have my agents checking him out so we will get some new information stat. We will find out his story. You can follow the most up to date
information at my twitter or here on the blog. #newguy
In the meantime, what are your thoughts on marriage and divorce? Do you judge one more so than the
other? If so, why?
