So this weekend, my friend PP disappeared off the face of
the planet, so I was left to fend for myself. Given the grave state of my number of friends, I called up
one of my friends, John, to entertain me.
Before you jump to the obvious conclusion that he was in me for the
weekend, he was not. John is
actually a great friend of mine, rather tame, but honest enough to keep me
honest, at least for the short time he was with me.
In any event, I had John join me for some weekend drinks,
dinner, and shoot the shit. It was
great to catch up with him since he missed my birthday and I missed him when he
was in town. It was pretty
interesting to hear him talk about a latest chick in his life.
I’m always very defensive when it comes to any chick one of
my guys wants to bring around. My
mantra is always ‘guilty until proven innocent’, so I was ready to rip into
this chick. However, I was
actually pleasantly surprised at the information provided.
Apparently, John and this chick have been fooling around for
about a week. They haven’t had sex
yet, but she has informed him that she is into unorthodox sexual
activities. So I had to feed him a
couple of his favorite margaritas to pry the information from him.
This girl is up for anything. S&M, choking, tying up, I won’t even go into the
conversation we had about the zucchinis and cucumbers. So the girl was someone after my own
heart. What was the big deal
right? The big deal is that it was
John who was attracted to her.
Like I said, John is a tame guy. He is a legitimate good guy. I mean, I get that opposites attract, there’s obviously a
reason he and I are friends, but I started wondering how that all works in
bed. I have had some tame guys in
my bed (mostly because I’m stronger than all of them). I’m into some freakish things, and
frankly, don’t introduce it right off the bat given the unusual nature of my
kinks.
But how do you have a conversation about these things? I’m obviously a big proponent of
communication, so my first instinct would be to just ask a guy (or girl) what
s/he is into. I think that a lot
of people are afraid to do this because you put your kinks on the table and it
might scare someone off. I mean
its true, but frankly, do you want to be with someone who can’t share in your
love of a nipple clamp?
Okay, so when is the right time to bring something like this
up? I mean, John is 5 days into
this thing and he’s already wondering whether he should get a cucumber or a
zucchini. I’ve brought up my
nuances with a couple of guys, but like I said, the dudes were too tame to
satisfy me.
My theory is that these tame guys are usually into tame
girls, but while they’re “sowing their oats”, they find girls like me (and John’s
girl) who give them what they won’t be able to experience in the future. They’re biologically secure with these
girls because they aren’t trying to get impregnated nor are they trying to
foster a relationship. It’s pure
unadulterated sex. (And frankly, my
favorite kind of sex). Once they’ve
gotten a feel of the wild side, they will settle down with their fellow tame
girls (girls I loathe) and make a pack of tame kids.
I’ve kind of gone all over the place here, but I want to
leave you with a few questions.
Are you into a weird fetish or kink? If so, and you are in a relationship, does your partner
share in it? And if not, do you
let your partners know right off the bat, or later down the line? In the meantime, I’m going to go ahead
and enjoy my zucchini casserole.
