Pandora's Box

This isn’t an erotic story blog so I’ll save you from the specifics of my “best I’ve ever had” marathon sex session with Pecs from this past weekend. Although I think with these sessions, I opened up a Pandora’s box of questions. After consulting with my inner circle full of genius romantics and fiend-ish assholes, I realized I was being a closed minded jerk. I bet you’re wondering how a female so open with her sexuality and sexual practices could be so blind to the possibility of even newer practices. Give me a break, there’s always something new to learn in any disciple, even if you happen to be a master at it.

I pride myself in leaving emotions go at the door. Now you’re thinking that I was emotionally hurt in my past and so I have a bias, either that or I’m a sociopath. Fortunately, I haven’t had the opportunity to have my proverbial heart broken, nor am I fortunate to be born devoid of emotion. I also haven’t had the opportunity to be in “love”. Mostly because I don’t believe in love because evolutionary speaking, it doesn’t exist. Sorry to burst your bubble, but “love” is an evolved term and placeholder for attachment. I digress.

I’ve been partaking in these meaningless marathon sex sessions with a new young fellow in my life. Truth be told, it’s the most amazing sex I’ve had in my 7 years of sexual practice. So much so, it’s been leaving me in a euphoric haze for up to 5 days. Again, I digress.

It’s 2011 and females are as sexually active as ever. Short term mating is the wave of the future (if not the present), and the taboo around sex is quickly disintegrating (if not already). Meaningless sex for both parties involved, no emotion, no connection, just sex. Short term mating at its finest.

Traditional long-term mating involves dinner, drinks, and sometimes a movie. Sex comes in around date number three. “Copulation” has become a general practice in the search for a long-term mate. However, what I failed to realize (and thanks to my friend, Shari, for calling me out on this), is that short term mating has become a practice to find a long-term mate.

How does this relate to my marathon sex sessions and me? Let’s say that I’m a normal female. I’d be having sex with this guy to get my rocks off, leaving my emotions at the door, but wait; maybe this guy could be more than just a “live dildo”. Maybe, just maybe, he could be a potential long-term mate. So I scrutinize him. He’s a little short, but he is physically fit. He has a successful job, which in turn means stable income, which in TURN means resources. Okay, so a genetically viable mate, whom I’ve been short term mating with could be a potential long-term mate.

I can’t even type that with a straight face, but the question still remains, can you turn a short-term sexual relationship into a long-term more-than-just-sex relationship? After exploring the possibility that this could happen (because I’ve been so ingrained to think otherwise), I’ve come upon several theories behind the inner evolutionary workings of a short term to long term relationship, but I wanted to pose this question to the blog world. Can you turn a short-term mate into a long-term mate; can meaningless sex turn into a real relationship? Are there readers out there that have experienced this? If so, tell me about the experience, and how and why this happened. I’m curious to know the play by play. And for the record, I'm not looking for a long-term mate.