Spank Me

I asked this guy out on a date once.  We went to this fancy noodle house, which was actually pretty sexy.  Afterwards, I invited him back to my place with no real intention of sleeping with him (with every intention of sleeping with him on the second date).  After some serious 2^nd base action, I kicked him out with a 2^nd date scheduled.  Post 2^nd date, I went back to his place, a cute Brooklyn railroad style apartment where I wasted no time stripping naked and jumping into bed with him.  The sex was pretty much the best I’ve ever had, but not without a “WTF” moment. 

What’s up with dudes and wanting to spank you?  I was going to say, “I don’t get it”, but then I realized I’d be a hypocrite, because I don’t mind being spanked.  The problem I had in this situation was that he didn’t even warn me.  It kind of came out of nowhere. (And thank goodness he only knew a pre-boxing controvershiL, because dude would have been left with a hard right on his high cheek bones)

I’m totally into S&M, but spanking someone does NOT put you in charge.  In fact, if it comes out of nowhere, then it just makes you like a pansy ass that is afraid to divulge his inner most desires. 

Back to S&M, I’m totally into domination.  I like being in charge.  I know what I want, I know what I like, and I’m not afraid to tell it how it is (as if that wasn’t obvious).  And doms like me are into guys who know how to take charge.  The problem is that they are far and few in between. 

I think it’s kind of cool to relate to this my life in general.  I’m a take-charge kind of person.  I do what I want, when I want, without any shame or worry about the consequence.  And perhaps that isn’t the way it should be, but confidence can take you everywhere.  And I don’t want to push this post into how confidence is what makes the world go around, but it really is, and frankly, whether you are a dom or a sub, all you need is confidence to make it work.

And while I like playing by my rules, I can totally accept a guy who will step up to the plate and try and take charge.  In fact, he doesn’t even need to warn me if he isn’t just going to be a pansy ass spanker.  I know that kind of sounds hypocritical, but it’s the truth.  Some dudes know how to “take it”.  While others just play like they can. 

So readers, I would like to pose the question to you.  Are you a dom or sub?  What are some of the things you like to do in the S&M world?  Do you prefer your better half taking charge in bed?  And the most important question of all, are you a spanker?

Dedicated to my one true love, who took care of my while I was sick this weekend, Scandal.